Five Things I Wish I Was Told When I Came to College

As the trees begin to change color and the leaves begin their slow cascade from branch to earth, I can't help but fall into a reflective mood. Students, including myself, have just endured the slings and arrows of their midterm exams and can now take a step back and breath a sigh of relief. We are half-way through this semester! But with this realization also comes this awareness: its my 3rd year at Ohio State and I'm more than half-way finished with my undergraduate education. Entering stressing-about-the-future mode, my brain begins to formulate its favorite anxiety-laden questions. Am I making the most of the time I have in college? Am I set up to succeed after I graduate? If any of you are having these thoughts too, I hope I can quell some of your concerns with this entry. I don't claim to have the all the answers to these questions (heck I'm the one asking them), but to the high school students and underclassmen undergraduates out there (and anyone else prone to worry), I hope I can offer some advice.

I know there are plenty of people that want to get on their soap box and give tips to young impressionable students on how to live your lives (I know this because I've witnessed several of them on the Oval with "Eternal Damnation" and "Repent!" signs). I don't want to be one of those people. I just want to share what I have learned over the past two years in college. I hope I can lend more of a student perspective that goes beyond "Get involved, make good decisions, and don't do drugs." Read it and feel free to disagree. There are plenty of ways to spend your college experience, and I don't claim to have all the answers. I just want to share the things I have learned from my time at Ohio State thus far. With that disclaimer behind us, lets venture onward! Presenting: "Five Things I Wish I Was Told When I Came to College."

#1. Ask:

I've realized the majority of the growth experiences I have had were things I had to ask about. While succeeding in your classes is paramount, most of the things worth doing in college will happen outside of the classroom. You will need to do some investigation to find those things that will make your undergrad years as meaningful as possible.

Ask people to mentor you: College is a great time to court mentors. The magic phrase that you always have in your back pocket in college is "Hey, I'm a student!" Being a student or announcing you are a student can open many doors. Reach out with people that you want to emulate, that you respect, that have a track record for mentoring students. Even ones that don't. Ask them to go to lunch and pick their brains, and then get lunch with them and follow-up. Ask them for life advice. The faculty and staff at your college have a surplus of life advice and opportunities they would like to provide you (present and future), so take the time to reach out and connect with them! Credit goes to Jason Nazar, CEO of Docstoc for the idea of courting mentors. Check out his video here: (https://www.udemy.com/lectures/lesson-8-court-mentors-61766).

Ask to expand your network: Networking is a vital skill. Hone it in college. In the real world, people pay hundreds of dollars to go to conferences to network with contacts and learn about their field. College is a four year opportunity to do just that! Networking is making friends and connections with people before you need them, and its easy to do. Just ask! Ask to get lunch with students you aspire to be like. If you have a professor you admire, ask to get involved in their research projects. If you attend a talk or lecture that resonates with you, approach the presenter at the end and ask for their card. And always follow-up! If you expand your network now, and it will will much easier to connect with people down the road.

Ask people what they read: People's favorite books often define their philosophies and these books can help shape you too. Its a shame that people don't read books like they used to, but taking the time to read two or three books a semester can help you expand your mind and learn about the world in new ways. Also, buy an e-reader (I love the Kindle). They are portable, easy on the eyes, and hold thousands of books at a time. Even better, there are so many free books online that you can read on its lovely e-ink screen.

Ask good questions: The key to succeeding in your classes is to always ask good questions about the material. Continue to ask good questions both in and out of classes. Consider what parts of the material are confusing to you and go to office hours and ask good questions to your professor. They will be impressed with the time you spent thinking about the material and they will usually give a helpful explanation.

#2. Don't Pass Up on Important Experiences:

It's important to complete your school work, but you can't have a full college experience if it is only lived through a textbook. Go on adventures, travel, and try new things. You will realize what you enjoy and what you are truly passionate about. 

Get the full college experience: You will always have something you need to work on in college. You may have a midterm to study for or a homework assignment to complete. Still, there will be opportunities to take a trip with your friends for the weekend, participate in a event at your university, attend a fascinating talk, or attend a conference in a different state. Take that trip, see that lecture, and go to that conference! Just make sure your assignments get done (perhaps on the plane)!

Study abroad: In tune with bite-sized, weekend experiences, I'd like to give an aside to one (more long term) recommendation. You should study abroad (or have some sort of abroad experience)! It may be expensive and difficult to line up everything and make sure all the classes transfer for a study abroad trip, but the cost is worth the benefits! There are always a million reasons not to do something. Work during a summer and/or search for travel grants from your school and elsewhere to fund it if needed. When else in your life are you going to have the chance to life and learn for several months in a foreign country? Take advantage of the now. Otherwise, your next chance to do extended travel may not be until you are retiring, and you won't have the energy to do the things your young spry self can do now!

#3. Be Intentional:

Time is more precious than gold, you have a limited supply and cannot buy any more on the commodities exchange. Be intentional with your time, in your jobs, organizations, relationships, and otherwise. Only spend time on things that are important to you, and things that will help advance you towards your future goals. 

Build rather than consume: Everyone has some degree of free time. I believe there are two ways to spend your free time: building and consuming. Building is anything that develops skills and/or creates something worthwhile, while consuming is something you enjoy that isn't necessarily a growth experience. For example, a "building" activity could be starting a student organization. You learn how to work with a group of people with common interests, establish an organization, be a leader, and complete something within a larger institution (all important skills you will use again after you graduate). Another could be mentoring high school students in the area, you learn how to teach, motivate others, and manage your time. Examples of consuming could be going out to parties with friends, watching the football game, playing video-games, or going to a music festival. Consuming is important to blow off steam, but it shouldn't be the only way you spend your free time. Try to spend a portion of your free time on meaningful growth experiences every week.

Have a side project: Its easier to spend time building if you have a side project you enjoy. I've found it useful to always have a big project I am working on, outside of my classes. It could be a research project, a club you are starting, an app you are developing, or a paper you are writing to submit for publication. As your project grows and you become more passionate, you grow as well, and you might find yourself spending even more time working on it.

Be strategic about your job: Pick jobs that will also provide relevant growth experiences. Become a rep for a company you admire, get paid to work in a research lab, find meaningful internships, or TA a class. Don't just work at a front desk or get a job at a restauraunt waiting tables. If you need the money and there aren't many options, by all means there is no shame in doing that kind of work, but always be on the lookout for an experience that will teach you meaningful skills. Some may say this is a criticism of low-skilled labor positions, but I say why not have your cake and eat it too? A good job pays the bills and also gives you valuable connections and practical experience.

Stack, stack, stack: A friend once told me, it is such a cruel celestial joke that we are born into this world with unlimited curiosity, but limited time. We want to do so may things, but are limited to just a few. How can we ever choose? Won't spending too much time on any one thing limit us from doing the other things we desire? I'd like to introduce the principle of Stacking, conceived by a fellow Buckeye (and fellow Zach), Zach Friedman. Zach explains stacking with an example of his friend Nick's success. Nick likes breakfast food, being a tour guide, and advocating for small businesses. He is also a skilled writer. Nick combined his passions and skills into a successful blog, http://breakfastwithnick.wordpress.com. By stacking his skills and passions together, Nick achieved a result greater than the sum of its parts. Stacking recognizes you may not have the time to do everything, but you can make the time you spend on projects fulfilling in multiple ways. If you like teaching, science, and working with faculty you can become a TA and do all three! You can take that A+ paper you wrote for class and submit it to an undergraduate journal and get it published.  You don't need to feel limited to doing something that only fulfills some of your desires. By combining your passions and skills into one project, you get an incredible result that will expand your horizons. (Informed and inspired by Zach Friedman's talk at TEDxYouth@Columbus, Living Life Intentionally, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R2JCd19zi2s)

#4. Find Good Friends, Stay Close to Old Ones:

Aristotle said that friendship is like silver. But, why of all the precious metals did he choose silver? Why not gold or platinum, which are certainly more valuable? It is because silver tarnishes, and requires regular polishing and maintenance to retain its beauty.

Your friends will define you: On a group retreat last year, someone told me "You are increasingly becoming the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with." That thought resonated with me and still informs how I spend my time with other people. Your friend circles will define who your are in college and onward. Its important to associate yourself with people that will help you grow positively. Seek out friends that are doing the things you want to be doing and succeeding in their studies. 

Spend time with those you care about:  Mark Twain said, "I have never let my schooling interfere with my education". Once again, your classes are your number one priority, but don't make it your only priority. Branch out and find clubs and organizations you enjoy. Build things with other people. Call your family every week and make an effort stay close to friends you cherish. You will have a lot of people in your life in college, and you will have the opportunity to form relationships (romantic, friendly, familial) with different people. Don't waste time on people that don't care about you; invest your time in people that matter. When the valleys and peaks of life hit, these will be the people that you share them with.

#5. Find Yourself:

Above all, college is a time for finding yourself. 

Self-reflect: Try to take some time out of every week on self-reflection. A friend of mine  takes an hour long walk every Sunday to think about their week. It may initially feel like something not worth doing, but introspection allows you to make the most of every blunder. If you made a mistake, reflecting can help you think about why it happened and allow you to prevent it from happening in the future. You will begin to cherish your mistakes and turn them into a tool for success. If you blow a class presentation, you can be glad it happened now and not when you are working and an important client is on the line. Why did you blow that presentation? What can you improve to do better? Reflection is the key to minimizing future mistakes.

Learn to lead: Being a leader doesn't just mean being an officer or a president of a student organization. Being a leader means learning to empower people to reach their maximum potential. Bosses have titles, but leaders are visible in all walks of life. When working in groups or student organizations in college, try to help other people be the best they can be. The best leaders always do.

Find what you love: Lastly, (but certainly not leastly) find your passion in college. A huge portion of the people in the US hate their job and loathe going to work every Monday morning. The word "work" is weighted with the sense that it is something we don't enjoy doing. Doing something you hate 9-5, every day, for the rest of your adult life is a miserable way to live. Find something you love to do in college, that you are good at, and that people will pay you to do (for me it was medicine, or "pre-med"). And when you find it, pursue it with all of your being, never letting go of your passion.


Thanks for reading! If you have any thoughts or questions, please comment below or email zadavidson@gmail.com. Good luck in everything you do.

Sincerely,

Zach

Service with a Smile

Hurricane Sandy was the deadliest and most destructive hurricane of the 2012 Atlantic Hurricane season (from Wikipedia). It was the second costliest hurricane in US history, causing an estimated $68 billion dollars in damage. Sandy made landfall in New Jersey on October 30th, 2012 and 8 months out, we are still rebuilding in its wake.

My fellow OSU co-counselor, Sophie, and I before we leave for New York

This past week, I had the tremendous opportunity to serve as a counselor for the Wexner Corps (WSC) service trip to New York. The WSC went to do Hurricane Sandy relief for those that were deeply affected by the storm. As you may be wondering, the WSC is a service-learning initiative comprised of 40 Jewish High School students from around the Columbus area. On Sunday June 9th, the group journeyed to New York with the hope to get some first hand experience with Tikkun Olam (the Jewish belief of humanity's responsibility of repairing the world). They spent the week rebuilding homes on Long Island that were badly damaged by the storm, creating a community garden on Staten Island, preparing food in soup kitchens, and canvassing communities to inform those in need about services that were available to help them. The WSC worked closely with NECHAMA (a Jewish Disaster Relief organization), Masbia (a network of kosher soup kitchens in New York City) and local community grassroots organizations to contribute to the relief effort.

From students to drywalling masters at a work-site on Long Island.

When we finally started working at different sites, it was shocking to realize how much work still needed to be done. Homes that had been damaged 8 months ago still were in early stages of repair, many because the owners had been waiting for disaster relief funds from FEMA. I primarily worked and supervised a site on Long Island that had been badly damaged by Sandy. The house was being repaired by NECHAMA, and the staff member at the location, Ross, told us that it was the house of a 94-year-old woman who lived with her daughter. The woman had dementia and was going into surgery to have a feeding tube put in when we went to see her, but her daughter Leslie (who was also her caretaker) still made a stop down to see us working on her house when we came down. She was so thankful that we were working on her house and wanted to tell us in person.

The house rebuilding team poses
with their fearless NECHAMA site-leader, Ross

We learned together every evening on the trip, and one particular lesson stands out when I reflect on our work on that woman's house. In Pirkei Avot, it says "Lo alecha hamlacha ligmor, v'lo atah ben chorin lehibatel mimena." Translation: "It is not up to you to complete the work, but neither are you free to desist from it.” This teaching stresses the importance of the process, rather than the result in our work. When we were working on that house (or any project that week) we were never able to finish the work. What was it even worth if we couldn't finish the job? To the people living in this house, it was very significant. The owner was 94 years old with dementia and wouldn't be in this world for long. Our work brought the day that her and her daughter can move into their home a couple days closer to today. Maybe because of the progress the WSC made, they will be able to spend a little more time together in their home. 

We live in a turbulent world, one prone to natural disasters and human suffering. Recognizing this reality is disheartening, but necessary if we want to make it a better place. I am confident that the WSC learned a lot about themselves and the world in this short week. I'm sure that Tikkun Olam means a little more now than it meant before this week began. It was a pleasure to work with the WSC students and staff from the Wexner Foundation and I look forward to what the rest of the year holds for the Wexner Service Corps!










Credits:

Wikipedia

The (newly formed) Wexner Service Corps

The Staff of the Wexner Foundation

NECHAMA, Masbia and all the wonderful service organizations we worked with in NY

Gray for the title "Service with a Smile"

Jeptha Davenport for the "Newly Reignited" Blog Pact of 2013.

Crawling for a Cause

Is there a place where drinking meets philanthropy? Where beer enthusiasts and do-gooders can collaborate to make the world a better place? Indeed there is! This Saturday, April 6th, good hearted bar-goers from all over Columbus, Ohio united in drink for a cause at the 4th Annual Crawl Against Cancer in Memory of Mary A. Stoltzfus. The Crawl raises a significant amount of money every year for Pelotonia and Relay for Life, two fantastic charities that raise money for cancer research. 

Dr. Fus speaks to fellow volunteers 
about covert inner-crawl operations.

In its 4th year, this event is organized by Dr. Matt Stoltzfus (affectionately referred to as "Dr. Fus" by his students) in memoriam of his mother, Mary Stoltzfus, who passed away from cancer. I took Dr. Fus' General Chemistry class last year and have worked with him on a number of projects, so I jumped at the opportunity to people-watch charitable drunk bar crawlers under the guise of volunteering at his event. I joined twenty-some volunteers in setting up shop in our respective assigned bars on the crawl to ensure the event went smoothly, and patrons stumbled in the right direction. It was my first year volunteering at this event, which made for an enlightening experience. I was fortunate to be paired with a veteran of the event, Karl, who was able to show me the ropes.

The first, and most sober O-H-I-O of the event.
I'm the over-enthusiastic one in purple.

Karl and I manned the station at Charlie Bear (a bar/night-club), putting on wristbands and handing out drink tickets. At the event, each captain was responsible for putting together a team of ten people. Each team member paid 35$ to join the crawl, which came with a t-shirt and beer at every location. Teams had the option to go on north or south campus bar routes. The crawl went from 1-5pm after which there was an after party. It was great to see so many bars participate in this event (see credits below for a full list).

I was also tasked with the challenge of getting as many people to tweet drunken O-H-I-O's to the @osucancercrawl twitter page. Dr. Fus arranged for the best one to receive a neon bar sign from the Columbus Distributing Company. The digression in spelling was evident as the crawl progressed, and by the last stop it was difficult to tell I's from H's. Next year, we will aim for more complex words and see how far crawlers can get. 

This O-H-I-O struggled to take form.

The Crawl was a creative angle in combating a disease that touches many. Dr. Fus' innovative philanthropy event inspires me to find new ways to raise money for causes. It is so good to see this event as part of the family of awesome, avant-garde OSU and Columbus fundraising events akin to Buckeyethon (24-hour dance marathon) and Pelotonia (bike marathon). Through my googling I learned there is also a national Crawl for Cancer that does an event in Columbus (check out http://www.crawlforcancer.org). Take note parents: maybe a good way to raise money for sending your kids to college, and have some fun while at it.

Some crawlers, like this guy, had excellent taste in track jackets. 

Glad to take part in this event, and I can't wait for the 5th annual next year!

Zach

Credits:

Dr. Fus for organizing the event and for retweeting my ridiculous pictures documenting the event.

The bars: Little Bar, Out R Inn, Donato's, Sloppy Donkey, Chumley's, Too's, The O Patio, Midway, Big Bar, Charlie Bear, Ugly Tuna, Kildare's, and Lucky's for taking part in the crawl.

Jeptha Davenport for his terrific travel post and the "Flexible" Blog Pact of 2013.

Making a Difference Before We are "Adults"

For the past couple weeks, I have been reading Mountains Beyond Mountains by Tracy Kidder. The book is a deep look into the work of Dr. Paul Farmer, a physician specializing in infectious disease, who has accomplished great work in Haiti and several other third world countries. You can check out some of his work at his non-profit's website, Partners in Health (http://www.pih.org/).

Farmer is a fantastic physician, and an incredible human being for the selfless work he does every day. His noble values and unyielding motivation are amazing to read. What stood out most about what Farmer has accomplished are not his actions per se, but the time period he got involved in his work. Farmer was reading extensively about Haiti, learning its history, and beginning to travel to the country in college! By the time he was in medical school at Harvard, Farmer was flying to Haiti regularly to do medical work. He established his non-profit "Partners in Health" to help fund his work in Haiti in 1983, he was 24.

While it is easy to write off Farmer of as uniquely exceptional, I refuse to believe that it is impossible to do what he has done. And I don't mean medical work. While we can't all start non-profits in Haiti, I think it is very possible for each one of us to find our passion, start running for it, and never look back. Dr. Farmer inspires me to work for my passions even when I haven't "earned my stripes" yet. It is still possible to build programs and organizations and actively change the world, even without a D-R dot or any sort of certification. If you believe you can accomplish things, you can.

I think of how John Mayer's song, "Waiting on the World to Change" always bothered me for some reason. Mayer sang about how we are all "waiting on the world to change" because it is "hard to beat the system when we're standing at a distance." We may never be able to fix the entire system, but Farmer inspires me to try to fix one thing we are passionate about. Regardless of where we are, who we are, or how qualified we may be if we are passionate about something, we can channel that passion into action and change things. Lets not wait on things to change while we sit idly, but be change agents in our organizations, schools, and work places.

Ghandi once said, "Be the change you want to see in the world." Dr. Farmer is proof of how one person could be that change.

Credits:

Mountains beyond Mountains by Tracy Kidder [Amazon Link]
Jeptha for the Blogger Pact of 2013

And so it begins...

Over spring break (last week), I went on an incredible, fundamentally life-altering trip to Guatemala. Working with volunteers from all over the world and the Gesundheit Institute, we dressed up daily as clowns (stay with me) and spread happiness to orphanages, clinics, nursing homes, and other places in need of emotional up-lifting. It was a fantastic opportunity to use what remains of my diminished Spanish language skills, help people, act ridiculous, wear old outfits from my high school show choir, and meet incredible people.

I am starting this blog because I made a pact with one of my fellow clowns, a doctor from Calgary, CA, that I would post every week if he did the same. So here it is Jeptha, my first blog post! I'm sure yours will be a great read, and I am looking forward to it!

For my first post, I wrote several emails home during my trip describing the experience. I will include a portion of one of these emails from last week. I discussed the humanitarian clown organization (yes they are a thing, I never knew) we worked with down in Guatemala, Las Fabricas de Sonrisas.

"Las Fabricas de Sonrisas means "Factories of Smiles" and is the name of the Guatemalan clown organization that we are volunteering with here. The structure and history of Fabricas is a fascinating one. The group was founded 5 years ago on the belief that humanitarian clowning could bring love, community, and kindness to Guatemala and the world. The organization is highly structured, with a director board and 75 branches across Guatemala. The organization educates "Doctors" (expert humanitarian clowns) in their school every weekend and during the week the clowns go out to spread smiles to individuals severely in need of happiness throughout Guatemala. They never accept money, and are exclusively staffed by volunteers. The organizations educates clowns in their school in "generations" and through their process have developed an organization over 4000 strong throughout Guatemala. The organization has spread to El Salvador and these clowns of kindness are constantly looking for new opportunities. It is incredible to see an organization with a culture of such professionalism and love in the heart of Guatemala. I learned last night that Guatemala has the highest murder rate in the Western Hemisphere. We are discouraged from walking the streets at night. There are only certain, well lit public places that we are told are safe to go. This place has a certain darkness about it, but that darkness is challenged by the forces of love and kindness that I see in Fabricas. These people are so warm and so loving and I believe may hold the power to changing Guatemala. With more and more clowns every generation, Guatemala is becoming a better place,
one smile at a time."

Thank you for reading, and I will see you next week.

Zach